8 ways to keep the romance alive in your relationship

There’s no doubt that you tried your best when you were dating your partner to be romantic, otherwise you wouldn’t have found such a hottie. But the secret to keeping her is to remember to do all the things you did to get her in the first place.

To keep the beautiful, smart, funny woman who ticks all your boxes, you must keep ticking hers. And one box on every woman’s romance list. Women want to feel loved and be knocked down every step of the way, but you don’t need to be a handsome prince to do that.

1. Make her feel loved

Everyone speaks different languages of love. Some show their care through physical acts of affection such as hugs, kisses and sex, while others use small but meaningful gestures such as taking a bubble bath after a long day or casually buying their loved one a box of chocolates.

– Make sure you understand what is most important to your couple: flowers? Words of love? Kind deeds? Or? – Dr Karl asks. Figuring out how to be heard by your partner should be easy, you were fluent in the same love language when you were dating, so remember what you did to make her feel most loved.

2. Be spontaneous

“Often incorporate an element of surprise into your interactions,” explains Dr Karl. “Relationships have the ability to become dated very quickly, so make sure yours is always fresh and exciting with unforeseen and unexpected romantic adventures.”

If you’re in a long-term relationship, chances are you’ve made a long list of all the exciting things you’d like to do together, and now is the time to start doing them. Start with what excites you both the most and knock her down with a spontaneous adventure full of romance.

3. Step out of your comfort zone

You certainly want there to be some sense of comfort in your relationship. Being with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable is a single ticket to a terrible breakup. But being too comfortable in a relationship leads to boredom, which can get even uglier.

When you were dating, we bet you spent more time outside your comfort zone than you do now. It’s only natural to want to do things you wouldn’t normally do to impress the woman you’re dating.

4. Ditch the nights on the couch

Of course, we all need nights out. There’s no place like home when you share it with someone you love. But when you spend more time together on the couch than anywhere else, it’s time for a change, there’s nothing romantic about sweatpants.

You’ve been lying on the sofa for too long. Get rid of your attire and mentality and join your partner for walks, runs, bike rides or anything else you can share – says Dr Karl.

This gives you a chance to spend quality time together and talk to each other without feeling like you’re interrupting the film and cutting back on what you really want to say.

5. Give yourselves time to miss each other

Spending time apart is an important part of any relationship. If you’re joined at the hip with someone, romantic or not, you’ll inevitably drive each other crazy. That cute habit she has that everyone else in her family finds annoying will no longer seem so cute (and it keeps her secret). But after a while you’ll find that she’s even cuter than before, and vice versa.

6. Show appreciation

Showing appreciation is often one of the first things we forget to do in a relationship. It doesn’t make you a bad person or mean you don’t appreciate it, you just forget to express it hard when you’re in a familiar place. Show appreciation for the little things your date does for you. Women have been known to complain that they feel unappreciated – says Dr Karl. Be vocal, but remember to match your words with your actions, as we all know that actions speak louder than words. Showing your appreciation regularly will be a constant reminder of why you fell in love with them in the first place, and will give you the right reason to keep the affair going.

7. Try new things in the bedroom

There’s no better way to spice up a romantic relationship than to try something new sexually. While you’ve been dating, you’ve been constantly figuring out what each of you likes and dislikes about the bedroom.

Eight ways to keep the romance alive in your relationship

Now that you have a better understanding of what turns her on, it’s easier to stick to what you know, especially when you have no complaints. Sex should be part of any healthy routine in a romantic relationship, but sex itself doesn’t have to be regular.

8. Never stop dating

Date nights shouldn’t be saved for special occasions. They allow you to spend intimate, quality time together without distractions. It’s a good excuse to dress up, have fun and get to know each other better. Besides, you know you’ll have sex at the end of the night (if you behave your best, of course).